WITT #24: We meet again, Dec!

STORIES

Finally, we are in the last month of 2017!

Even I am not celebrating Christmas but I always love to welcome December. The peak season of many things, specifically for work. From my experiences, we usually have a lot of works to do 3-months before the end of the year. This month I will still keep busy with giving a training, organize the conference, finalize some reports, etc.

Recently, I also was thinking about to make my blog into a business, instead of only to share my thoughts, hobbies, and feelings. I want to make something different from my routines working schedule and inspire my readers from what I wrote and what I create. Therefore, I won’t stop learning, reading, doing some research and really hope one day I can make a good business of what I really love to do.

Since I was a little, my parents always let me study or learned by myself. They weren’t always demanding me to be what they want and let me choose what I really want and need for myself. Most of the times, they were busy with their 9 to 5 work and almost rare to accompany me, even just to finish my homework. That time, I always thought that I cannot make it, gave up etc, but fortunately, it always gave me more spirit to bring out the best of me and show to them, that I can be better children and will always make them proud of me.

I was always kept myself busy with my friends, joined and involved in many organizations when I was in the university. Many ups and downs of my study, friendship, relationship and a lot of difficulties I had already experienced. I did not realize that it gives me a strength to face every problem wisely and to know what is the best for myself. Even, sometimes I also complaining and whining, but then I feel grateful for what I have and many experienced I’ve ever been through.

So for you who live in a good and having a prosperous life, don’t forget to always feel grateful and enjoy your life to the fullest.

See you very very soon, 2018!

With love,

Astrid

WITT #23: Sebulan lagi Tahun Baru!

Sore ini baru saja saya disadarkan kalau sekarang kita sudah hampir memasuki penghujung bulan November 2017. Waktu benar-benar cepat berlalu, kadang saya mengharapkan agar waktu dapat berjalan perlahan, tapi berbeda dengan kali ini. Rasanya saya ingin sekali cepat-cepat memasuki tahun 2018!

Emang ada apa sih?

Masih rahasia, hehe.

Sebenarnya setiap memasuki penghujung tahun, perasaan saya bercampur aduk. Seringkali merasa sedih, karena harus meninggalkan momen-momen indah yang sudah kita lewati di tahun tersebut. Beberapa tahun belakangan ini, seketika Allah SWT mengabulkan doa-doa dan harapan ku satu per satu. Rasanya sampai gak bisa diungkapkan dengan kata apapun, kecuali alhamdulillah.

Bisa dibilang tahun 2016 dan 2017 merupakan dua tahun terpenting dan membahagiakan dalam hidup saya. Begitu banyak kejadian, pelajaran, pengalaman, pembelajaran. Pokoknya di kedua tahun tersebut, saya merasa dari berbagai kejadian yang saya alami, telah menjadikan diri saya menjadi pribadi yang lebih baik, juga meningkatnya proses pendewasaan yang ternyata (terkadang) terjadi di bawah alam sadar kita.

 

17 freaking awesome affirmations for 2017
Source: Pinterest (#makelifegood)

 

Tapi yang jelas, untuk tahun depan resolusi, doa dan harapannya gak mau terlalu muluk-muluk, semoga semua rencana yang telah direncakan dapat dijalankan dengan lancar dan baik!

Kalo kalian, ada yang sudah buat New Year Resolution belum? Yuk, sila di share di kolom komentar di bawah ini!

Semoga aja wishlist dan resolusi kita semua dapat terwujud di tahun depan!

Bisous,

Astrid

 

WITT #10: Me and my quarter-life (crisis?)

2016 has been really kind to me, I have had many experiences during this super-year for me! In this year, I am turning to 26 years old, where most of the people will say ‘welcome to the real jungle!’ and yes, I do welcoming the real jungle in my life now. Some people think it’s terrifying to turning in the age between 25 until 30 years old. They even say these age periods with ‘quarter-life crisis’.

What is it?

According to the Wikipedia, the quarter-life crisis is a period of life ranging from the twenties to thirties, in which a person begins to feel doubtful about their own lives, brought on by the stress of becoming an adult.

This phenomenon often characterized by insecurities, fear of loneliness, depression, disappointments, failure and broken-heart moments.

According to a recent study titled Emerging adulthood, early adulthood and quarter-life crisis: Updating Erikson for the 21st Century, by Dr Oliver Robinson at the University of Greenwich, this time in your life breaks down into five main phases:

  • Phase One: You feel trapped by your life choices, like your job, relationship or both. You’re living on “autopilot”.
  • Phase Two: You get a sense of “I’ve got to get out of this” and feel a growing sense that change is possible if you just take a leap.
  • Phase Three: You quit the job, end the relationship or break the commitment that’s making you feel trapped. Then you detach and enter a “time out” period where try to rediscover who you are and who you want to be.
  • Phase Four: You begin rebuilding your life slowly but surely.
  • Phase Five: You develop new commitments that are more in line with your interests and aspirations.

And sometimes I feel I’ve been through some of those phases in my life. But I am not that desperate or stress about my age yet since I am really enjoying myself with my works, family, passion, hobbies, meeting with new friends, travelling and the most important thing is I really enjoying my life to the fullest!

I have seen there is a lot of my friends who always worrying about their age. When they always talking about the relationship, marriage, economy issue, children, etc. Well, I don’t really care about other people’s businesses though, but sometimes the way they’re thinking of about their life, seems very interesting for me to know;

‘What do we exactly wants for our life? What are we really looking for in this life?’

Everyone’s seeking for happiness, prosperity, love, and their brightest future, that’s for sure. But for me, the most important thing is ‘the process’. The process how we could get all of that which will make myself or even other people appreciate what we do and we have done, as the results.

For example, I really love my job now! I feel like this is my real passion which I always dreaming of since years ago and me myself is very grateful of what I’ve got. And when I feel such feelings, that is the time when I appreciate ‘the process’ more than the result. It’s like when we are talking about relationship. It takes a long time for us to be with someone that we love faithfully and to spend the rest of our lives only with this person (this is the case for people who already got married). It’s absolutely takes many ups and downs, struggles, cries, laughs or even wounds that we faced. It’s all about commitment and its madness!

I have seen many friends of mine, who already has 1 or even more than 2 children in my age. But then I always asking, “do they really happy with their life?” I mean, when they need to do domestic things, taking care of their children, their husband, some of them also should have to work or doing business, continue their education, all of that at the same time! Maybe they even don’t have their ‘me time’ anymore, because they should have to consider many things before they will decide what they wanna do, frankly, for herself.

Well, again, it’s everyone’s choices to be what they want to be. I am here not to judge anyone.

For me, I really want to pursue my Master program by full funding scholarship, that’s for sure. I do really want to have happy life through the institution which we often called, marriage. I want to catch my dreams one by one. I want to travel the world, to see every sunrises and sunsets, to feel the different seasons, to eat a different kind of food, to breath the different scents of the world. I always feel grateful that I could travel the world almost 80% for free! How come? Because I got a job which always requires me to ‘travelling’ while I was joining with training, workshop, seminar, conference, or forum, usually in outside Jakarta or Indonesia.

But above of all, deep inside of me, I really want to make my parents and my family proud of me. Proud of what I am doing, even it will not in line with what my parents want me to be. But I know, they will always supporting me, supports me to be the better version and reach all of my dreams.

I’ve been through many break-ups, quit jobs, unrequited love, rejection, being cheated or betrayed. From these events, of course, I do learn many things in life. Whenever and wherever I feel like I was shunned from the things that I really wants, that is the time when I exactly knows God’s hands working in His own way and on preparing other things which is more useful for us.

So every time you feel life is unfair to you, that is the time you should have to get closer to your Creature and keep saying grateful for what you have got and what you have done in life.

C’est la vie!

WITT #8 : Life between Geneva and Jakarta (1)

Yay, my blog post about “What I’m Thinking of Today?” or I usually called it with WITT now its already 8th times! In this time, I will try to tell many different things that I feel between live in Geneva and Jakarta. Here we go!

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Since I came back from Geneva, sometimes I feel like half of me has changed already. I never thought that I could live by myself and moreover live far away from home. From my family and friends. Since I was born, I never live far away from my family for a long time, but I did. I lived in Geneva by myself for 3 months. I never thought that I could have had this chance. This year was the best year so far for me! I even celebrated my 26th birthday in Geneva! In the most expensive city in Switzerland, I could say, hahaha.

Well, back to the story that I wanted to tell.

So when I came back here in Jakarta, I could feel there are many different things between Geneva and Jakarta. Well, I shouldn’t compare both of this city, because I know both are definitely different, where Switzerland is a developed country, while Indonesia is still known as developing country. I could feel and see many different things between two of them, mostly on general things that I found in the street.

The ethics of queuing. In Geneva, I saw there were so many immigrants than the Swiss citizen. We can easily found, the Africans, Arabian, as well as Asian. But they always obedient and well-ordered every times they were queuing. In Jakarta, people tends to be disordered, precede each other, apathetic, and sometimes they seem intolerance even with the elder people.

Self-service habits. In Geneva, there are some places which tend obliges us to do everything by ourselves, such as; self-service payment in a supermarket, self-service in the gas station, put our dishes by ourselves in the provided spaces at the restaurant and much more. In Jakarta, we are still relying on the waitress services, sometimes I was thinking that Jakarta people are still like being spoiled. If we go to the restaurants, cafes, or food court, you can see so many people left their dishes on the table; there are only few gas stations in Jakarta which using the self-service, and there is no supermarket who apply for the self-service payment. We do still need a cashier.

Elder/Disable/Pregnant women’s signs (special seat). In Geneva, if we see every sign which contains and concerned to the people that I mentioned above, it means we need to obey it and people seems fine and keep standing in order to respect the sign. In Jakarta, as long as those special seats still empty, so we definitely can sit in there! Sometimes people who sit there, even they saw people who have the special criteria, they sit still and seems ignored or sometimes pretend they were sleeping.

Public transport payment method. Oh, this is what I still amazed with the payment method for the public transportation in Geneva. So usually every months I bought/renewal/recharge my TPG (transport public Genevois) card for CHF 70 (or equally to IDR 935.000) and it is already included unlimited used for busses, trams, and taxi boat only valid within Geneva. We don’t have to tap the card to the small machine in a bus/in a station, we just can go directly to the public transport that we want to use. And during my 3-months stayed in Geneva, there was only one time the bus officers tried to checked my TPG card! In Jakarta, we have two payments method for the public transportation; First, we need to recharge the card (usually it depends on how much money do you want to fill in the card, minimum IDR 50.000 or EUR 3.6) with all that money we can use the bus for 14 times, because usually they charged for one time; one destination only for IDR 3.500 or EUR 0.3 cents, this payment method only valid for the Transjakarta busses! The second one, we can use the traditional bus which is we can pay directly to the driver/the bus officer which is inside the bus, the price usually lil bit expensive than Transjakarta, it will take around IDR 4.000 – 10.000, it depends on the distance. Why Transjakarta is cheaper? Because it’s owned and regulated by the Jakarta provincial government.

I think I still can feel there are many different between Geneva and Jakarta. I will definitely update more once I remember.

(to be continued)

WITT #5: Social Media = Life?

Recently, I have learned something that everything in our life should not be posted in our private social medias. But since I am one of a kind person who really into social medias and social networking, I’d always love to share my feelings, my holiday pictures, my writings to people that I have friends within my social media accounts.

I didn’t know since when social media tend to be the most important platform for people who wants to ‘socialize’ with their friends. I have to join with many social medias just like any normal Indonesian people, such as; Facebook, Twitter, Path, Tumblr, Snapchat, Instagram, Pinterest, LinkedIn, Couchsurfing and I used to have ask.fm and Flickr. Oh, I also used Tinder and Badoo which for more dating reason.

Each of social medias that I have now, they have different functions but I think they have a same reason like to ‘show-off’ with people. There is a need of people who seems really like to show they daily activities to the world or at least to the people who following their profile.

Why I should have so many social medias? Facebook, I am using it both for works, connecting with old/new friends, as well as to find some news, articles faster than I should have to watch on TV. Twitter, since years ago, I am using Twitter likely for my works, I tend to be social media officer wherever I am working, intinya lebih banyak tuntutan pekerjaan. Path, it is more daily routines and the scope of friends is more closer than Facebook, I am using this to share what kind of movie that I watch, what kind of song that I listen to, what kind of book that I currently read, what am I doing with my work, my friends, or my family, update to many places that I visited, and sharing pictures sometimes. Tumblr, I have currently activated my account again and using it for my personal blog post. Snapchat, I am so rare using this one, maybe I will delete it soon. Instagram, actually is the most favourite app for me, I like to share pictures that I took everywhere I go. Pinterest, I am using it just to find any cute, nice and cool things, also to find some ideas about decoration, art and crafts. Linkedin, of course for my working purpose! Couchsurfing, I am using this one more often every time I travelling to another country, it’s good way to meet with local people!

Can I live without my social media accounts? That’s what I always thinking about. Sometimes I really want to delete all of them, but then I didn’t just because I definitely still need them, 60% of my works now is already involving the role of social media.

There is another story about social media, where many couples tend to “compete” how far they get through their relationship to people who follow or be friends with them. Let say I am one of the victims who ever did that every time I had a relationship with. I always happily posted ‘intimate photos’ with my significant others in my social media, just like any other people. It always feels a pleasure every time people were seen and liked our happy-face pictures in our social media. But then, do we really happy for each other just like what our picture tells? I don’t think so!

Posting too much about your relationship implies you’re seeking validation externally.

Most people who post too much about their relationships do so, not because they’re gushing with joy but because they want to prove something. Either it’s to “stake their claim” on their significant other, sometimes it’s to make an ex feel “oh so jealous”, or to prove to their friends and family that they’re ‘oh-so-happy!’

In another case, I met with a lot of new friends every time I travelling. Most of them turned to be my good friends, the rest was just the way it is. But the one who always catch my attention, the interesting one and the most valuable one are the ones that I never realised to take a picture with them! It is always like that. But then I realised, everything that you think is not good or not so special, in the end, they are the one who is the most memorable!

And I believe, once we keep that one out of public eyes and attention, that’s might be the one who will long last in our life.

So, what does social media means to you? And tell me why it really means to you?

WITT #1: Post-Geneva Syndrome

What is WITT #1? Well it’s actually abbreviation of “What I’m Thinking of Today?”. Since today, I will try to share some stories which will starting from every simple things that I have thinking of every days. And such a new ways on sharpening my English writing skills. Wish me luck, yes!?

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It’s been almost three weeks since I came back from Geneva, but I still feel homesick and there is something that missing deep in my heart. I feel like I found myself, new family and new friends in there. I was enjoying myself being alone and independent all of times. Had many chances to met with many new friends during my Europe trip it is also became one of my favorite journey!

I didn’t know since when I could be very brave to travel around and started labeling myself as ‘solo-traveler addicted’, but that is the biggest enjoyment that I could feel right now!

Recently I feel really missed Geneva and its beauty. Even some people said, Geneva is only a small and boring city, but still I could feel my own happiness or even on finding my real identity.

I feel like I left everything behind in Geneva. I left my own happiness, my deepest feeling, my sadness, my loneliness, my dreams, my bad and good times, even I left my gallbladder there! Lol..

I never knew that 2016 has brought me to be the best and the most interesting year in my life so far.

I don’t know what I could say to Him, except grateful feelings about many things that happened with me during my stayed in Geneva, Switzerland.

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Ps. I am writing this in the middle of the night at the hospital with the infused on my left hand, since the stupid thing I did last night and enjoying myself to watching my lovely Mom sleeping beside my bed. I am sorry Mom, that I’ve been busy recently with my own feelings, till I didn’t realized that you are the one that I want to be with forever in my life. I love you beyond everything in this world.