At the Human Rights Council, the High Commissioner spotlights more than 60 countries which have seen recent significant improvements – or negative trends. During his oral statements, Indonesia has been mentioned of this 60 countries.
“The Government of Indonesia has made progress in recent years in upholding human rights. I urge the authorities to address my concerns about increasing hostility towards religious and sexual minorities, which appears to be a recent and essentially foreign import to a traditionally tolerant nation. I encourage deeper consideration of the Faith for Rights Declaration of March 2017, which draws together commitments common to many religions and beliefs, and notes that “violence in the name of religion defeats its basic foundations: mercy and compassion.”
The general principle of non-discrimination is a fundamental element of international human rights law as written in Article 2 of the Universal Declaration of Human Rights (UDHR). The right to equality and non-discrimination is recognised in Article 2 UDHR and is a cross-cutting issue of concern in other UN human rights instruments. Human rights instruments prohibit discrimination on several grounds. Article 2 UDHR prohibits discrimination on the following 10 grounds: race, colour, sex, language, religion, political or other opinions, national or social origin, property, birth and other status. The term ‘other status’ has an open-ended meaning; some grounds not explicitly mentioned, such as age, gender, disability, nationality and sexual orientation could also be considered prohibited grounds.
The Universal Declaration of Human Rights is a milestone document in the history of human rights. Drafted by representatives with different legal and cultural backgrounds from all regions of the world, the Declaration was proclaimed by the United Nations General Assembly in Paris on 10 December 1948 as a common standard of achievement for all peoples and all nations.
This year has marked the 70th Year of the Universal Declaration of Human Rights (UDHR) since its published on 10 December 1948 in Paris, France. As an NGOs working on human rights issues, Human Rights Working Group (HRWG) are happy to join the campaign #StandUp4HumanRights to celebrate the 70th Year of the UDHR this year.
Why your skins look so pale? Why you look even fatter than last month? Why your skin looks even darker than usual? Why, why, why…
I bet you all heard this kind of ‘illness’ conversation once in your life. Most of the times, in here we are getting used to starting a conversation with ‘Kok kamu gendutan sih? Kok kamu kurusan sih? Kok kamu kelihatan gendut di foto? Kok, kok, kok…’ instead of hearing people ask you with ‘How are you? How is your work? How is your family? etc’.
Why I said this conversation is ‘illness’? Because that conversations will leads to another problem of that person, which you may not or will never understand the reason.
And it’s absolutely body-shaming.
Body shaming is the act or practice of humiliating someone based on their body type by making critical and/or mocking statements about their body shape, size, etc. A lot of media has framed the ideal picture of a woman is the one who has a sexy body, white skin and long hair. And, sorry to say, there are many social media platforms through its public comments also highly contribute the act of bullying and body shaming individuals for their appearance. Am I wrong, if I said that currently, media has contributed how we define a woman looking beautiful? And how our culture actually really love those thin and white women, which we can see it in print ads, video, movie, magazine, etc.
In our society, that kind of acts has been rooted since long time ago, it’s even has become the usual or common thing which done by closest friends who is shaming their friends like that. They think it’s fine to do body-shaming like that with their friends as an act that we-so-called-being-honest, but the fact, it is still considered not cool. At all.
Here is why I, you and we HAVE TO STOP body shaming:
FYI, it’s not cool at all: Let me know is there a good thing that comes out of putting someone else down? By calling they are fat, too skinny, too many acne or any other negative things, it only creates hostility between you and other people around you. Me, myself never heard that bullying will solve any issues, no never. Not even to invites people to change their lifestyle so they will look perfect as you want. If you want to advise someone or your friend about their health, tell them by express your concerns without using that disgusting words. And nah, not in a social media.
It can lead to their psychologies: People is different, how we look at people are different too! We never know someone that we bullying, may have a very sad story in their life. They may have such difficult times, to fight and reach life that they want. For someone with low self-esteem by listening how fat or skinny they are could make a very bad impact on their psychologies. They will think that they are not good enough to be with a handsome boy or beautiful girls because they think, they’re just physically not good enough. It also leads to hate. Hate about people which said that they’re ugly or at worst, hating themselves.
Impact of their eating disorders: it also includes their eating disorders impact, such as; anorexia, bulimia, etc. In the Western world, anorexia is a very very serious problem. It is also highest mortality rate of mental illness in the world. I’ve ever watched a Netflix movie “To the Bone” with Lily Collins as the main actress. The movie was trying to show how is it like to live with anorexia nervosa and how they really struggling to face it. From that movie, I suddenly realized how is actually feel difficult to be like them. There are people who really want to be skinny so that they try so many diets tricks, but the other even have to fight and struggle to get their normal weight. But there is also another people who simply just want to continue their life, without having to think about what people said about them. I really love Demi Lovato and Ashley Graham, they are two of inspiring women for me. Demi is only one of the hundreds of actresses who has struggled with her bulimia and eating disorders for years. It must be hard for her to recovery from eating disorders. And Ashley… she just perfectly beautiful for me. As a body activist, she wants to empower women to fight with their body insecurity and how to love their own body. And I really love how she can be very confident with herself and showing that self-acceptance is way more important.
Adding more enemies: if you really want to have and make some friends with people, just simply stop body-shaming them. We have enough problem in this world, just stop being controlling and telling people why and how they should live their lives. Stop give comments about what people look alike on their vlogs, stop hating people just by their looks without you really know about them, it is just not your job to scrutinize them.
Stop ruins someone’s life: you really never know how someone who has low self-esteem can live their life, right? Making them feel that they just not worth in this world, also can be very dangerous. Dealing with this negativity is very tiring, we all know it. We never know how vulnerable they are. Lot of news I heard, girls committing suicide just simply they got bullied for being fat, skinny, or their sexual orientation is different. So stop ruining someone’s life!
Increasing insecurity, decreasing self-esteem: I probably one of the hundreds of girls who sometimes still have low self-esteem, even from outside I look very ignorant. And I also have this insecurity feeling about everything, including about what people say and think about me. I always have the feeling that maybe I am the one who just too overthinking because I still experience it even until now. But seriously, being bullied by people around you will definitely contribute to this.
What you plant now, you will harvest later: if you plant negativity, then that’s what you will get in return, vice versa. So stop body shaming and bullying, we just don’t want if this will contribute to our next generations. Love yourself first, before love other people.
Keep your self-love, self-acceptance and always be confident of what you look like with all our diverse shapes and colours, will make us fight back against bodies image on the media. Watch this short video, which still relatable with this post.
Seneng banget akhirnya bisa datang juga ke Bridestory Fair 2018! Kali ini event nya diselenggarakan di Grand Ballroom di Sheraton Hotel, Gandaria City. Mumpung dekat dari rumah juga, jadi emang udah niat banget untuk datang ke acara ini dari jauh-jauh hari. Apa sih Bridestory Fair?
Yes, it is an annual wedding fair which held by Bridestory. Rata-rata memang yang datang dan berkunjung ke pameran ini tentu adalah pasangan muda yang tahun ini akan menyelenggarakan pernikahan, ada yang juga datang dengan orang tua, teman, sahabat, ataupun keponakan, kayak saya ini. Jadi, jangan heran kalau di beberapa foto ada ‘penampakan’ dari wujud keponakan saya.
Okay, let’s go back to the Bridestory fair!
Saya suka banget sama tema Bridestory Fair tahun ini, yaitu stardust. Kita bisa lihat hampir di seluruh ruangan Ballroom yang disulap dengan kerlap-kerlip lampu bak bintang-bintang di malam hari. Bahkan lebih serunya lagi ada satu ruangan yang di sulap benar-benar seperti kita berada di luar angkasa yang bertaburan dengan bintang-bintang.
Kira-kira kayak diatas penampakannya. Keren banget sih emang kalau dibayangin pernikahan dengan dekorasi kayak di atas ini. Dekorasi ini hasil karya dari Suryanto Decoration dan Lightworks.
Terdapat sekitar 100 wedding vendors yang berpartisipasi dalam pameran kali ini. Mulai dari wedding consultant service, wedding planner and organizer, photographers, wedding decorations, wedding costuems, seserahan decorations, wedding cakes, wedding invitations, dan masih banyak lainnya. Hampir semuanya bikin mupeng bangeeet! Suka banget sama desain-desain dan tema-tema yang ditampilkan di dalam Bridestory fair tahun ini. Kebetulan karena saya berniat untuk menyelenggarakan pernikahan pertengahan tahun ini, jadi memang lagi mencari banyak inspirasi dan referensi baik dari pameran pernikahan maupun dari orang-orang terdekat. Saya juga akan coba share beberapa vendors yang cukup menarik buat saya di postingan saya kali ini ya!
Saya sempat menyambangi beberapa vendors, dan sebenarnya lebih tertarik dengan beberapa vendor seperti wedding cake, decoration dan invitations sih! Ternyata trend saat ini benar-benar berkembang pesat dari beberapa tahun sebelumnya. Inovasi-inovasi terbaru pun kini mulai membanjiri, ide-ide out of the box bisa dengan mudah kita temui di beberapa vendor pernikahan yang ada di Bridestory Fair 2018 kali ini!
Kayak yang satu ini nih, vendor ini salah satu vendor yang terbilang unik! Mereka terkenal dengan gaya undangan yang menggunakan material acrylic.
Awalnya saya sih sudah sempat melihat beberapa inspirasi undangan pernikahan seperti yang mereka produksi diatas ini di inspirational board yang ada di Pinterest saya. Tapi begitu lihat aslinya, ternyata bener-bener keren banget! Soal harga memang terbilang mahal, untuk 1 set bos invitation nya di bandroll sekitar Rp 173.900,- dengan minimum pemesanan untuk 200 undangan! But the price is worthed with the high-quality invitation that they made! Undangan ini tentu jadi kenangan tersendiri bagi si penerima, karena kita bisa menggunakan kembali acrylic box undangan tersebut.
Nah, kalau diatas salah satu instalasi pameran dari salah satu wedding photographer yang sudah cukup ternama di belantara Bridestory. Kamu bisa cek juga profile Instagram nya for more portfolios!
Selain vendor undangan pernikahan, saya juga menemukan dekorasi kue pernikahan yang cantiiiik sekali. Selain wedding cake, Gordon Blue ini juga punya kreasi lainnya, ada macaroon wedding cake, dan lain-lainnya. Pokoknya cake jaman now banget deh, anyway udah ada yang udah pernah coba ini?
Anyway karena ini merupakan wedding fair pertama yang aku kunjungi, ternyata pernikahan jaman now benar-benar menguras duit ya? Beberapa waktu lalu dan hingga saat ini, maraknya tema wedding rustic yang terkenal dengan desain barang-barang antik dan bekas. Cukup menarik, bagi pasangan yang memilih tema klasik untuk pernikahannya.
Mempersiapkan pernikahan saat ini apa-apa terlihat seperti harus mahal dan glamour. Padahal hal yang lebih penting lainnya, kita sendiri yang harus pandai-pandai memilih dekorasi dan kebutuhan pernikahan dengan matang. Jangan memilih sesuatu yang kita inginkan saja, tapi harus cerna betul apa yang benar-benar kita butuhkan. Itulah yang saat ini saya rasakan, penting juga untuk selalu mendiskusikan every details of the wedding preparation with our significant other. Jangan sampai, salah satu dari kita memaksakan kehendak masing-masing, sampai akhirnya jadi pemicu permasalahan di hubungan kita ya.
Menurut teman-teman, tema pernikahan apa ya yang bakalan ramai di tahun 2018 ini? Jangan lupa komen di bawah ini ya..
Yes, maybe for some of you who ever been visited Jakarta or at least read any news in online social media ever heard about this kind of issue. Jakarta is a big city, yes even almost as big as Singapore, let say.
In some of the Southeast Asian countries, we might have this common problem about pedestrian in the capital city. Jakarta is one of the big city in Indonesia, which half of its people either using private transportations (like, car or motorcycle) and public transportation (bus, the commuter line, taxi, angkot, ojek online, etc). According to the Jakarta Post, as of 2017, there are about 4.8 million cars in Jakarta and about 13.6 million motorcycles.
Yes, it’s big numbers, right?
I actually one of Transjakarta users in which also quite often to access pedestrian road. Transjakarta itself is the name of bus company which own by our local government here. I am working in the central part of Jakarta, where some part of the area has very good pedestrian way, but the other part still worst even not accessible to walk just because of there is a lot of development nearby or hijacked by motorcycle users.
This is one of the problems to walk in a pedestrian way in Jakarta. A lot of motorcycles users take pedestrian way to avoid a heavy traffic jam on the road. Besides that, you will see a lot of food stalls or trucks parked in pedestrian, in which you will feel either annoyed by them or tempted to buy what they sell (but anyway, it’s unhealthy). There are just a few problems which commonly happens in Jakarta, but actually, the main problem which happens to women pedestrians even far beyond of it.
This week, to be exact on 22nd of January is known as National Pedestrian Day in Indonesia. And I would like to share my experiences also maybe a lot of women experiences dealing with the pedestrian road in Jakarta.
Cat-calling. Girls, be prepared for this! You might hear a lot of guys on the street will tease you by whistle or call you with ‘Mba.. Mba’ or even ‘Neng, neng..’ its a nickname to call girl like Miss, in English. They even often look at you from head to toe, just because you wearing a casual cloth which they thought intentionally to see their attention.
Yes, it sucks, I know.
Sexual harassment. I never had this kind of experience, but I knew some friends or heard some girls who experienced this kind of thing. Last year I heard, there was a woman was sexually assaulted in one of crossing bridge in Pondok Indah, it’s nearby in a place where I live. In Indonesia, this kind of assaults can take place even in a very crowded area, even also in a daylight. Unfortunately, in Indonesia, it is such an epidemic and we still don’t have legal protection for sexual harassment.
For women, walking in a big city like Jakarta absolutely will face double risk. First, you never knew when you walk on the sidewalks, you could be raided by motorcycle users. Secondly, you can also be sexually abused.
According to the Thomson Reuters Foundation report frankly said Jakarta had the fifth-most dangerous public transportation system for women in the world and the second in Asian countries, after New Delhi, India.
I don’t mean to make my readers feel worried or afraid to visit Jakarta after you guys reading this. But I want to raise this issue to be our common concern and working together to stop sexual harassment… everywhere! And please, also respect our rights as a woman as well as a pedestrian.
In my age now, I believe that we can’t please everyone happiness above of all. I did a lot in the past, till I lost my own happiness that I built by myself, and now.. I won’t live to please everyone. Not anymore.
Well, everybody will definitely say this on their social media, just right after the new year 2018! Who’s agree with me now?
In here, where everyone is enjoying barbeque time with family, dinner with their loved ones and hanging out with their friends, I’ve always chosen to be here, staying in my home, well technically in my lovely big bed, listening to the sound of many fireworks around my neighbourhood and this year… ‘enjoying’ my flu and fever.
I forgot since when I am extremely rare to go out during New Year, maybe after I graduated in 2012. Not because I don’t have friends to go out, but I just not really into ‘the celebration’ of the new year. For me, I prefer to stay at home, contemplate what I’ve been done this year, what I did to others, and what I will do in 2018.
Since 2014, I got chances to travel a lot inside and outside the country, I’ve gained so many experiences and many lessons learned almost every day, had chances to meet new networks and friends. Well, pretty much more than I have expected in my every New Year Resolutions and I feel very grateful for what I’ve been through.
2018 will be a year that I will start a new journey and a new phase of life with someone that I love the most! We just hope everything will run smoothly and everything will be fine as we expected. I also hope that I will have chances to travel around the world, of course, this year will be with my plus one.
So, what is your New Year resolution? You definitely can share your thoughts with me in comments below.
Oh anyway, a very happy NEW YEAR to all my readers!
While we are counting to the New Year and since I am still on my holiday, I would like to share my favourite song playlists throughout 2017 to all my readers. These songs are already accompanied me during my works at the office, home, airport, plane, well practically almost everywhere. Since I really love music, so I actually could have a better concentration and focus by listening good music.
So here I am listing my favourite playlists which I recap from my iTunes charts which I already heard for hundreds and dozens of times throughout 2017:
Tell me you love me by Demi Lovato
Echame la Culpa by Luis Fonsi & Demi Lovato
Perfect by Ed Sheeran feat Beyonce Knowles
All falls down by Noah Cyrus feat. Alan Walker
Let me go by Hailee Steinfeld feat. Florida Georgia Line
…Ready for it by Taylor Swift
Meant to be by Bebe Rexha feat. Florida Georgia Line
Havana by Camila Cabello feat. Young Thug
I miss you by Clean Bandit feat. Julia Michaels
Issues by Julia Michaels
Boys by Charli XCX
No promises by Demi Lovato feat. Cheat Code
Bedroom floor by Liam Payne
Power by Little Mix
Rain by The Script
Stay by Zedd and Alessia Cara
Back to you by Bebe Rexha and Lous Tomlinson
So, those are my playlists that I really liked to listen all the times both through my phone and my laptop. For me, listening to music makes me more relaxed, calm and can have a better focus to do some works and even during thinking about ideas and writing my blog posts.