Misogyny Crisis — Wait, what?

Since I was in junior high school, I always have few of female friends and so many of male (best) friends. The reason?

Girls are so much drama!

Is there anyone think the same with me?

I believe there is some female who has same thoughts as me.

Recently, I just read a very interesting article posted by Everyday Feminism. For those who did not know about this website, please go check their website here. Just like the name, it talks all about feminism, women empowerment and other queer-talks!

So, they published an article which very enlightened me about what is it called misogyny and internalised misogyny. Okay, first I would like to explain what is misogyny. According to the Urban Dictionary, misogyny is:

(1)…to hate women, think less of them or show distrust, solely based on their gender.
(2) A word modern feminists have hijacked so they can ignore any form of evidence, facts or logic that doesn’t push their misogynistic, misandry agenda.

In short word, it means a prejudice against women. The act of comparing a girl with other girls and/or boys also one of the examples.

Wait, what?

Yes, I had a (big) mistake when I said being a friend with ‘girls are so much drama’ because it is one of the common phrases which I directly involved in promoting and demonstrating the term of internalised misogyny. Why?

“When it comes to women who believe they are inferior to men, that’s we called internalised misogyny

It makes me realised that every word we’ve said and about to say, we have to think it carefully first, but it should not be a barrier for us to express our opinion and expression. This ‘new term’ make me realised that internalised misogyny could be and often happened in our daily lives and most of the times we did not understand whether the words that we used is just a mere jokes or truly has the intention to mock that person.

That is why it is important to educate people in general, reading and trying to understand more about problematic things in our daily lives, as well as to heal from this kind of mental ‘illness’.

These are what I read about “4 Common Phrases that Demonstrate Internalised Misogyny” from the articles:

  1. “I am not like other girls” — Surprisingly, this simple phrase preserves the idea which makes the gender stereotypes are true.
  2. “I would rather hang out with boys than girls, girls are so much drama!” — It feels like slapping me hundred times on my face! It has said that phrase reflects a harmful stereotype.
  3. “Unlike other women, I have morals” — Calling all the women who always think they are more pure, faithful, virgin than any other women. Don’t ever judge women by the way she wants to do anything with their body and mind, as long as it doesn’t interfere with your rights.
  4. “Real women …” — Often, the phrase is used to praise women who behave as they’re traditionally expected to behave. It’s used to reinforce the idea that women must be nurturing, well-dressed, and in a monogamous relationship with a man.
Be happy to be like other girls! They are awesome!...loving the red noses! XD
Source: Pinterest

See? Those words are the simple phrases that some of us have said in the past or even until today. We often criticising women who having sex to fulfil their sexual needs (outside marriage) and accused them that they’re immoral simply because of their choices. So for me, it is true rather than criticising women for having sex, we should criticise society for shaming people based on their sexual behaviour.

Read more this article here.

Xoxo – Astrid

WITT #20: After Birthday, New Baby Born!

Me and my family was really happy and yet, nervous since at the end of last week! Because my older sister was having her due date of her pregnancy. The doctor said the due date approximately around 12 – 19 June 2017 (which is on my birthday on the 19th!). In the afternoon during my birthday, my Mom accompanied my sister went to the hospital as advised by the Doctor. We were waiting for few days at home but the baby had not come yet until 20 June midnight, so the doctor finally told her that they need to do sectio caesarea for the baby.

It was such a depressing and deeply saddened for us, because we never expect that will happened to my sister and seven years ago, she gave a normal birth for her first baby. I believe it must be very tough for my sister to experience such a thing. But then we kept reminding my sister that the most important thing is her baby’s health.

After stayed for 2 and half days, finally the baby girl came to this earth! Yaaasss..

We are so happy to welcome the baby! And since the first day she came to this world, I can’t barely stop to looking at her cute and lovely face.

 

Welcome to this world baby Aspasya…

 

Love, xoxo

Our 2nd Paris Bucket Lists Checked: Le Consulat, Montmartre

I could say that I fell in love with the Montmartre area. For me, it’s very different with Parisienne neighbourhood as in general. The buildings in Montmartre was more original and some are old buildings which turned into cafe, souvenir shop, and restaurant. I just wondering it could be beautiful to live around there, but on the other hand, it could be also a disaster because there is always so many foreign tourists in the area.

If you ever watched movies like Amélie, Midnight in Paris, Paris, I love you and Moulin Rouge, those are a few movie titles which had the movie set in Montmartre.This area also very well-known of a famous basilica called, Sacré-Cœur, there is also Moulin Rouge and this cafe…

Le Consulat

It was our first day together in Paris and we looooved it!

After a long journey from our place which located in south part of Paris then took a Metro to go to Sacré-Cœur, finally, we decided to have lunch in this cafe! Yassss, so happy. It was always on my bucket lists every time I visit Paris. I knew this restaurant maybe since earlier in 2000s, from many pictures that I pinned on my Pinterest and Googled! Somehow I also see that this cafe is a romantic one compare to the others cafe surround.

And because, I loooove the red colour, of course!

We were lucky because it was a sunny and beautiful day when we were there, even we had a bit of rain, but after the sun was shining brightly in front of the cafe.

This is the lovely guy who was helped me to fulfilled #OurParisBucketlists. Love you! XOXO

Well, in terms of the food in the menu, the price it’s quite pricey for some food. And oh, I really love the Omelette with fromage and champignon with the salad. Lovelovelove and so tasty!

Since we have common favourite food, like the mushroom, cheese, croissant, pain au chocolat, salad, nasi goreng and spices like garlic, onion, shallot and many more, so it was easy to pick the food for us.

Relaxed outside Le Consulat resto

We bought the Omelette with Fromage and Champignon and as a dessert we ordered Crêpes! The price for the omelette is around EUR 11, while Crêpes is EUR 7 (if I am not mistaken). They also have some other foods like some kind of salads, crêpes, pasta, seafood and any kind of drinks like wines, beers, cafe latte, cappuccino, and many more.

It was a sunny day in Montmartre
Look my happy face! I wore my new Parisienne red hat which I bought in souvenir shop around there!

So, don’t forget to stop by at this cafe once you will be in Montmartre!

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Picture was taken by: Me and him

Address: 18 Rue Norvins, 75018 Paris, France

Pose ala-ala Raisa di Regeringsgatan Bridge

Language: Bahasa Indonesia

Ada yang masih inget salah satu Instagram post-nya Raisa Adriana, salah satu penyanyi tersohor di Indonesia di bawah ini?

Kalau gak salah ini diambil dari salah satu scene video klip Raisa x Isyana yang berjudul “Anganku Anganmu”. Bagi yang belum lihat video clip nya, silahkan klik di link ini.

Pas lihat post foto Raisa diatas dan juga video klip nya, rasa-rasanya seperti flashback ke masa-masa pertama kali berkesempatan business trip ke Stockholm untuk pertama kalinya pada Musim Gugur tahun 2015 lalu. Saat itu juga pertama kalinya travel abroad dengan long haul dan pertama kalinya juga menginjakan kaki di salah satu Negara Eropa dan Scandinavia. Jadi, senangnya bukan main.

Saat itu, udah sempat melewati dan melihat lokasi foto Raisa di atas, dan di beberapa footage yang ada di dalam video klip Raisa x Isyana, jadi makin flashback dan kepingin banget balik lagi ke Stockholm.

Sebelum video ini dirilis, sebenarnya aku sudah mendapatkan kesempatan (lagi) untuk datang ke salah satu forum internasional yang sempat aku hadiri pada tahun 2015 lalu. Jadi, kalau tidak salah, awal atau pertengahan Januari 2017, undangan dari penyelenggara forum tersebut masuk ke dalam email ku. Senangnya bukan main, pas dikirim undangan itu, karena itu berarti aku berkesempatan untuk kembali lagi ke Stockholm, Swedia!

Dua bulan setelah video klip mereka dirilis, tibalah aku di Stockholm! Tepatnya pada tanggal 15 Mei 2017 lalu. Walaupun, sudah memasuki Musim Semi mengarah ke Musim Panas, menurut aku suhu dan angin yang berhembus masih sangat dingin (maklum mental anak tropis). Di beberapa waktu, aku pun masih sempat merasakan suhu sekitar 4 derajat Celsius! Kebayang kan dinginnnya?

Hari pertama tiba di Stockholm, aku sempat capek banget, mungkin karena perjalanan yang panjang dengan rute Jakarta – Bangkok (3 jam 50 menit), lalu transit di Bangkok selama +/- 2 jam, dan kemudian lanjut dari Bangkok – Stockholm (hampir 11 jam), ditambah mata rasanya gak ngantuk-ngantuk selama perjalanan di pesawat, dan harus menunggu jemputan dari Bandara ke Hotel Clarion Stockholm selama hampir 2 jam lamanya, jadilah akhirnya memilih untuk istirahat di hotel selama +/- 2 jam.

Agak sorean, aku menghubungi salah satu teman ku, Abi, yang sedang studi di Uppsala, salah satu kota yang terletak di bagian Utara Stockholm, kira-kira menempuh waktu sekitar 45 menit – 1 jam naik kereta untuk ke Stockholm. Akhirnya, kita memutuskan untuk janjian ketemuan di Central Station Stockholm. Setelah ketemu, kita memilih untuk jalan-jalan sekitaran pusat kota dan iseng-iseng mencari lokasi syuting foto Raisa itu, lalu just had a fika di salah satu coffee shop di Kungsgatan.

Niat awalnya, Abi mau aku jadikan ‘tour guide’, eh gak taunya, malah lebih pahaman aku kalau cuman sekedar sekitaran pusat kota dan menemukan dimana lokasi syutingnya Raisa seperti foto diatas, hahaha. Tapi ada gunanya juga sih jalan sama dia, jadi bisa tau lokasi terakhir kejadian aksi terrorist yang ada di Stockholm beberapa waktu lalu.

Setelah jalan-jalan sambil rumpi, akhirnya kita ketemu juga sama lokasinya! Noraknya ampun-ampunan pas ketemu, mau ambil fotonya pun juga gak kalah heboh.

Mau tau hasilnya? Ini dia nih..

Jelas jauh banget sih dari sisi kemiripan, tapi gak apa-apa lah ya, judulnya juga foto pose ala-ala Raisa.

Fotografer: Abi

Lokasi: Regeringsgatan Bridge, Kungsgatan area, Stockholm – Sweden

Must Visit in Stockholm: An Instagrammable Spot in Stortorget

Thank you, thank you, thank you for your great responses on my blog post about “Must Visit in Stockholm: the Most Artistic Subway in the World” both on my blog and my Instagram. I received very good feedback and I am glad to share my travel experiences with my blog readers, as well as my Instagram followers. I will try my best to share all of my travel experiences to you more frequently, so always stay tuned on my blog and my Instagram account.

And now I would like to share about one of a small and famous square which located in Central of Stockholm, in the old city area and in the plateau of Stadsholmen. It is the oldest square in Stockholm and very well-known with their historical centre as it still in the same location with the Royal Palace, the Cathedrals and the Nobel Museum, namely Stortorget.

Stortorget, Stockholm

That was second time during my visit to Stockholm, Sweden. And the two famous landmarks which I took above is good cafe or restaurant. This is a square that usually people or foreign tourists will spend an hour or more to hang out and enjoy the time with their family, friends or beloved ones.

The two famous landmark buildings in Stockholm, Sweden
Nobel Museum or Nobelmuseet

The Nobel Museum above located just in front of the two famous building on my first picture. It is the place where is a museum devoted to circulate information on the Nobel Prize, Nobel laureates from 1901 to present, and the life of the founder of the prize, Alfred Nobel (1833-1896), together with the Swedish Academy and the Nobel Library.

Besides that, there is also many cafes, restaurants, tabac stores, fashion stores, and souvenir shops just around the Stortorget square.

Narrow street @ Stortorget

For me, this is one of a good spot for you who love photography or just want to take some pictures for your travel documentary, or even just to capture your best moment and upload it to your Instagram account!

Just like what I usually do.

And don’t forget to like my blog post and leave your comment down below if you have any questions! 🙂

Picture was taken by: Astrid Maharani

Must Visit in Stockholm: the Most Artistic Subway in the World

It was my second time to visited Stockholm, Sweden. Last time I went there, I didn’t have much time to explore the city by subway or metro. I walked a lot during that time, so I didn’t use the subway. I heard a lot that in some of the subway stations they have a beautiful and artistic subway in the world. So this year, when I had a chance to go back again to Stockholm, then I chose to use the subway couple times.

I heard a lot that in some of the subway stations they have the most beautiful and artistic subway in the world. So this year, when I had a chance to go back again to Stockholm, then I chose to use the subway couple times. And, yes it was beautiful to be explored!

Here are some pictures that I took in some subway stations in Stockholm.

T-Centralen Subway Station

T-Centralen platform
Kungstradgarden Subway Station

a cute rainbow escalator in Central Station, Stockholm

Most of the people said the subway stations in Stockholm is the world’s longest art exhibit with approximately 110 kilometers long.

And I was amazed too when I saw and used the escalator in Kungstradgarden (if I am not mistaken) via Västra skogen, they also have the longest escalator in the world. Oh, it was my bad that I forgot to take the picture of it, but it was very long. When I check it in Google, then I found information about it on Wikipedia. They said its 66 metres and with a vertical rise of 33 metres and yes, it is the longest escalator in Western Europe!

Awesome!

If you have a chance to visit Stockholm, I will suggest you to try to use their subway transportation, even though the cost its quite pricey, moreover for Asian people like me, it’s quite worthed if you want to experience and see the subway art station while in Stockholm. Unfortunately, I just used few of the subway station because I don’t really have much time to visit all of the art subway station that they have.

Do not hesitate to ask some questions related to travel in Stockholm, I will be happy to give you some advice like place to eat, beautiful park to visit, and etc.

Anyway, happy Sunday!

Our 1st Paris Bucket Lists Checked: Sacré-Cœur

This is the first place which we put as our first must visit place while we were in Paris. Well, I actually was insisted on making our itinerary trip to Paris. I hardly in love with Sacré-Cœur and it was on my bucket list in 2015, but I didn’t have so much time to visit this Basilica. That is why I am the one who insisted on putting this in our first Paris Bucket Lists (and thank youuu for being so nice and received my idea, love ❤ hahaha).

Here I am gonna show you my amateur pictures which I took with my phone. Hope you’ll enjoy it!

The first #OurParisBucketlists checked!

La Basilique du Sacré Cœur de Montmartre

A popular landmark, the basilica is located at the summit of the Montmartre, the highest point in the city. The Sacré-Cœur Basilica was designed by Paul Abadie. The construction began in 1875 and was finished in 1914. It was consecrated after the end of World War I in 1919.

This Roman Catholic church construction began in 1875 and was finished in 1914

The inspiration for Sacré Cœur’s design originated on 4 September 1870, the day of the proclamation of the Third Republic, with a speech by Bishop Fournier attributing the defeat of French troops during the Franco-Prussian War to a divine punishment after “a century of moral decline” since the French Revolution, in the wake of the division in French society that arose in the decades following that revolution, between devout Catholics and legitimist royalists on one side, and democrats, secularists, socialists, and radicals on the other.

There is a King Saint Louis IX statue above

The overall style of the structure shows a free interpretation of Romano-Byzantine features, an unusual architectural vocabulary at the time, which was a conscious reaction against the neo-Baroque excesses of the Palais Garnier cited in the competition. Many design elements of the basilica symbolise nationalist themes: the portico, with its three arches, is adorned by two equestrian statues of French national saints Joan of Arc (1927) and King Saint Louis IX, both executed in bronze by Hippolyte Lefebvre; and the nineteen-ton Savoyarde bell (one of the world’s heaviest), cast in 1895 in Annecy, alludes to the annexation of Savoy in 1860.

Stunning interior of the Basilica
A beautiful polaroid picture from us ❤

 

Source: Wikipedia

Picture taken by: Astrid Maharani